Hearing my life

Filling in the missing pieces of information of life.

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  • May 23

  So a girl got back together with a guy who abused her because she’s pregnant and thinks he’s going to change.

  He is the only one that can change himself. By getting back together with an abuser you aren’t giving them any consequences. The only way he will ever change is if he has to. “Saving” someone is no reason to stay in a relationship, you can’t just stay because you can see what he’d be like if he changed. He’s not going to change unless he wants to, and sadly you’re probably not going to be the reason, and rarely does adding a baby do any changes. 

  Next time anyone reading this agrees with going back with a physical, or mental, or sexual abuser just try to think of when the good times happen. Most of the time he’s at his best after a fight happens. That’s called the honeymoon stage, because they butter you up to make you feel dumb for getting mad or to make you forget it and think they can change.

  If you see nothing wrong with how they are treating please go get therapy. For your own benefit. 

  • #abuse
  • #relationship
  • #physical abuse
  • #verbal abuse
  • #mental abuse
  • #sexual abuse
  • #get
  • #help
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• • 2
  • Jun 15

  Reblogging it because it’s so true.

  He is the only one that can change himself. By getting back together with an abuser you aren’t giving them any consequences. The only way he will ever change is if he has to. “Saving” someone is no reason to stay in a relationship, you can’t just stay because you can see what he’d be like if he changed. He’s not going to change unless he wants to, and sadly you’re probably not going to be the reason, and rarely does adding a baby do any changes. 

  Next time anyone reading this agrees with going back with a physical, or mental, or sexual abuser just try to think of when the good times happen. Most of the time he’s at his best after a fight happens. That’s called the honeymoon stage, because they butter you up to make you feel dumb for getting mad or to make you forget it and think they can change.

  If you see nothing wrong with how they are treating please go get therapy. For your own benefit. 

  • #abuse
  • #reblog
  • #abuser
  • #honeymoon stage
  • #mental abuse
  • #physical abuse
  • #sexual abuse
  • #life
  • #relationships
  • #please
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I'm about to graduate with my BS in Psychology and then I'm headed off to grad school. I do have fibromyalgia, a chronic pain and nerve disorder, so I relate to invisible illnesses. I love learning new things, fandoms, and quotes. I'm here if anyone needs to talk, and I never stop looking for the positive in life.