Hearing my life
Filling in the missing pieces of information of life.
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Some people are meant to fall in love with each other, but not meant to be together
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It’s weird how you say that you hate the boy who broke your heart, but when he comes running back to you, your arms are wide open.
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I think a big reason I didn’t get back together with him was because even when he’s telling me how miserable he is without me and that he shouldn’t have broken up with me it was still all about him.
Last I checked, when you love someone you put them ahead of yourself. It’s not that you ignore what you’re going through, but that you understand and want to make sure the person you love is okay because they mean more to you than yourself. So the fact that he didn’t ask if I was okay, or if I would forgive him for making me feel like the skankiest person on the planet made me realize it was always about him and his feelings. Not me.
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Don't let him have the satisfaction of knowing that you will always be
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Double Standards in Relationships
There are double standards in both genders, and lately I’ve been noticing them more and more.
Girls are more likely to blame guys for cheating than the other way around. But boys are usually given more chances than girls do when they screw up.
Is that found in most people’s social circles?
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Puppies whining when they get corrected during training kind of reminds me of guys whining when girls get mad at them for something legit bad they did.
They are trying to see if they can get away with something, and when they get in trouble for something they play the victim card. This can be also the opposite way with the girl pulling the waterworks just to get out of something.
The best thing people can do to grow into a better person is to own up for their actions. I’ve played the victim card multiple times growing up and I never learned from my mistakes, I even repeated some of them like pushing guys away but blaming them for it. But when I went through my roughest spot (like when I got depression) I realized that I’m not helping myself by not owning up to things.
When I said bad things about people, it was just hurting me and making me look stupid, when I set low standards the same thing happened. It wasn’t until I said “I’m making mistakes that need to be fixed” that I actually got myself to change.
My pain point is: don’t play the victim card, and don’t let someone else manipulate you with the victim card.
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Reblogging it because it’s so true.
He is the only one that can change himself. By getting back together with an abuser you aren’t giving them any consequences. The only way he will ever change is if he has to. “Saving” someone is no reason to stay in a relationship, you can’t just stay because you can see what he’d be like if he changed. He’s not going to change unless he wants to, and sadly you’re probably not going to be the reason, and rarely does adding a baby do any changes.
Next time anyone reading this agrees with going back with a physical, or mental, or sexual abuser just try to think of when the good times happen. Most of the time he’s at his best after a fight happens. That’s called the honeymoon stage, because they butter you up to make you feel dumb for getting mad or to make you forget it and think they can change.
If you see nothing wrong with how they are treating please go get therapy. For your own benefit.
I'm about to graduate with my BS in Psychology and then I'm headed off to grad school. I do have fibromyalgia, a chronic pain and nerve disorder, so I relate to invisible illnesses. I love learning new things, fandoms, and quotes. I'm here if anyone needs to talk, and I never stop looking for the positive in life.
